In short
The Olivia Raven guides are written for women first. They cover ethical non-monogamy, opening and closing a relationship, jealousy, talking about fantasies, online privacy, meeting someone safely, romance scams and sextortion, sexual health with more than one partner, discreet dating in Ireland, and your account. New to open relationships? Start with ethical non-monogamy explained.
If open relationships are new to you, begin with ethical non-monogamy explained, then how to start the conversation with your partner. Before you set up a profile or meet anyone, the privacy checklist for women is the one to read first.
Where to start, depending on where you are
Pick the line that sounds most like you; each guide links on to the next thing you're likely to need.
| Your situation | Start with | Then |
|---|---|---|
| Curious, but haven't said anything to your partner | Talking about fantasies | Opening a relationship |
| You've both agreed to explore | Ethical non-monogamy explained | Sexual health |
| It's started and one of you is struggling | Jealousy | Closing an open relationship |
| About to set up a profile | Privacy checklist for women | Is Olivia Raven legit? |
| About to meet someone | Meeting someone new safely | Scams and sextortion |
| Living in Ireland | Discreet dating in Ireland | Staying safe |
Every guide is written by the Olivia Raven editorial team, shows the date it was last checked, and lists its official sources at the foot of the page.
Open relationships and desire
- Ethical non-monogamy explained: open relationships, swinging and polyamory, the words people use, and what makes it ethical.
- Want to open your relationship? How to start the conversation: raising it, agreeing boundaries you can keep and checking in after a month.
- Jealousy in open relationships, and what helps: what jealousy is usually telling you, what to do in the moment and how to adjust your agreement.
- Going back to monogamy: closing an open relationship: raising it kindly, ending outside connections and rebuilding trust between you.
- How to talk to your partner about your fantasies: timing, first words, a yes, no, maybe list and how to handle a no.
Privacy, safety and sexual health
- Online dating privacy for women: a practical checklist: step by step through email, photos, profile details, messaging, meeting and leaving.
- Meeting someone new safely: advice for women: checks before you go, choosing the place, getting home and spotting red flags.
- Romance scams and sextortion: the warning signs: how the scams work, what to do if you're targeted and where to report.
- Sexual health when you have more than one partner: agreeing safer sex, testing and sharing results, and where to get free, confidential tests.
Your account, and dating in Ireland
- Is Olivia Raven legit? Who runs it and what you pay: who owns the site, what you pay, what's checked and how to cancel.
- Logging in, cancelling and deleting your account: logging in, resetting a password, recognising the charge, stopping renewal and deleting your account.
- Discreet dating in Ireland: privacy, prices and where to get help: privacy in a small country, prices and currency, and the Irish contacts for scams, image abuse and sexual health.
Questions people ask
Which guide should I read first?
If open relationships are new to you, start with ethical non-monogamy explained, then the guide to starting the conversation with your partner. If you're thinking about joining, read the privacy checklist for women before you set up a profile, and the first-meeting guide before you meet anyone.
Are these guides professional advice?
No. They are general information written by the Olivia Raven editorial team, with laws, helplines and health services checked against official sources listed on each page. For counselling, medical or legal advice, the guides point you to the right professional service in Ireland or the UK.
Do the guides help people hide an affair?
No. Relationship guides on this site assume everyone involved knows and agrees. The privacy and safety guides are about protecting yourself online and in person, from strangers and scammers online, not about deceiving a partner, tracking anyone or hiding money.